So I’ve posted before about Noah’s sleeping problems, most recently while asking the question “Who needs sleep anyway“. Well the answer is that we all do… Ray, Noah and yes… even I need sleep.
The thing is that Noah obviously doesn’t agree with us. Though getting him to go to sleep at his regular bedtime has gotten better (most nights anyway), the night time interruptions have not. His newest thing is to wake up somewhere between 2 and 3 hours after going to bed. He immediately starts crying. If we go in there to comfort him, he usually reacts in 1 of 2 (okay maybe 3) ways… either he will want to be held until he falls asleep… and then when we try to put him back to bed he starts screaming (unless of course I passed out along with him and wake up an hour or two later – which means that he is still passed out cold, then it’s easier to put him back in the crib)… or we will go in there and comfort him until he stops screaming crying, while leaving him in the crib. The problem with this method is that once he is calm, he thinks that we are there to play with him and that everything is a big ol’ joke. The third option that he gives us is that he is just a big old crab and unsatisfied with anything that we do.
Ray and I have had our fill of it. I can’t take the constant up and down anymore… heck it’s getting harder and harder to reach into the crib with this ever expanding belly of mine. Not to mention the hours that I (we) are spending awake because of this. So… we came to the conclusion that we are going to let Noah cry it out and I have to say, it is the hardest thing I have done so far as a parent! Ray spent a large portion of Saturday night going in and out of Noah’s room, trying to comfort him and get him to go back asleep while trying not to baby and coddle him. It took over 2 hours for Noah to fall asleep. Every time Ray came back out of Noah’s room, Noah would just start screaming louder and harder than before.
So… on Sunday we came to a new solution, whether it works or not only time will tell. We’re not going into the room at all anymore when he wakes so soon after going to bed. I will still go in and get him and give him his bottle at 4 or 5 am(yes he still gets a bottle then – my kid loves his food what can I say!), but only then. Sunday night he cried for 30 minutes and then fussed for another 15. Last night it was 1 hour of crying and 45 minutes of fussing/ stubbornly trying to stay awake. This kid sits up in his crib and you can see his head bobbing back and forth as he’s falling asleep while sitting, but he refuses to lay down!! Instead he gets angry and then stands up only to sit and do the head bob again until finally… eventually… he lays down and goes to sleep.
I hope that this will help break the cycle. I don’t know if it will, but I also don’t know what else to do. We have 4 to 4 1/2 months to get him to start sleeping a full night through in a healthy manner. I would love it if I could break him of the 4 am waking/bottle too, but I have to choose my battles and that is not a big one since he falls asleep again right away at that time. I know that there’s nothing wrong with him. He’s not teething, his ears are just fine, he’s fed well and he’s tired when we put him to bed. I honestly think that he just doesn’t want to be alone and is trying to get his way with us. While I love spending time with him I also love spending time with my husband and I love sleeping in my bed and not the rocking chair in Noah’s room!
Wish us luck, because I have a feeling the next few nights will be long ones!